Posted by John | Filed under Steve's Corner
To break it down to its most basic form, the people you are associating with are either building you up (Encouraging and supportive) or dragging you down (discouraging you, non-supportive). I know it sounds so brutal, but it’s true. There are some people who are so supportive, they leave you feeling like you can do anything. Their belief in you instantly propels you to higher levels. Then there are other people who are so blinded by their own fears, limiting beliefs and lack of direction, that over time, they rub off on you… in a toxic or negative way.
They discourage you because they lack their own courage. Sometimes this is painfully obvious and sometimes this is subtle. This does not mean you should abandon your friendships, rather become conscious and selective about where you are investing your time and energy and with whom. I have lifelong friends whom I love dearly, but I feel drained whenever I am around them. They seem to experience the same problems that cycle over and over in their life and they never seem to take responsibility or seek solutions in their own behavior or choices. They don’t read, they don’t listen to self-improvement programs or take action to change their circumstances. They gradually nudge you off course with their negativity.
With those people, I learned to have limited associations. I am able to stay connected but without the negative effects. To become more successful, you’ve got to get around more successful people. This is where you will form many new alliances with other like-minded, big thinkers. One idea, one suggestion or one introduction to a new associate can change your entire life. You cannot afford to spend time with blamers and complainers. I’m telling you, it will rub off on you.
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